Parenting is an awesome and yet a very challenging job. We try our utmost to ensure that we raise our children the best way we know how. Some of our parenting styles emanate from the way we were raised; if we felt our parents were too strict on us – the chances are that we will loosen the belts on our own children.
Could this be the right approach?
Here are some thoughts on parenting styles and the eﬀects each one may have on your children.
Authoritarian Parenting Style
In this strict form of parenting style, the parents expect the children to adhere to rules and regulations – children have minimal or no input at all.
These children rarely think for themselves and this might even hinder their thinking capabilities and their ability to make decisions. They may become socially withdrawn and may develop a tendency to act out.
Authoritative Parenting Style
A parent communicates in a warm, accepting and nurturing manner with their children, but still maintaining ﬁrm expectations and restrictions on the children’s behavior and holds them accountable for their behaviour.
With this style, the children are said to be very social and tend to do well in school; they are emotionally stable, and the alcohol and illicit drug use level is found to be lower
Permissive (Indulgent) Parenting Style
This is an extremely relaxed parental approach; the parents are warm, aﬀectionate, nurturing and very accepting of their child’s behavior, whether good or bad.
These children tend to lack self-discipline, they can be aggressive and act out and they are prone to underage drinking, due to a lack of rules.
Uninvolved (Neglectful) Parenting Style
The parents are totally disengaged and emotionally uninvolved in their children’s aﬀairs. No love or aﬀection is expressed. These children tend to become deﬁant to authority ﬁgures such as parents, teachers and other adults. They develop low self-esteem, patterns of delinquency during adolescent and there is a good chance of alcohol and drug addiction
The bottom line Employing the most eﬀective parenting style is vital, not just for us, but for the liberation of our children as well. However, there are other important factors that play an important role on a child’s behavior, and these include culture, children’s perceptions on parental treatment, and social inﬂuences. Parenting is all about grooming the leaders of tomorrow.